Change, while necessary, can also provoke fear.
Solving problems requires change.
Given a choice, it's easy to shy away from the fear of change.
We hold onto our problems when change causes fear. Stay centered, manage those emotions, and reach for courage instead of fear. What if you DID solve that problem by changing the process, the situation, or the interpersonal dynamics?
You can. Fear might just be the excitement you feel from the shift of the solution.
-- doug smith
Have you ever tried to solve a problem too fast? The need for that closure, the craving for satisfaction, the desire to put the problem to rest can lead us to solutions that feel good at first but just do not work.
The point of problem solving is not to feel good about trying to solve the problem -- it's about solving the problem.
That might take longer.
-- doug smith
Every problem contains a promise.
That promise is a solution that leads to improvement, that leads to satisfaction, that leads to success. It's not guaranteed, of course, but the promise is there. Why hide from it?
The promise of a problem sparks the seeds of success.
Find the promise, it will pull you toward the solution.
-- doug smith
For every problem we solve we discover two more. looks like we'll never run out of work.
-- doug smith
Some of us like to analyze. Some of us like to act and let someone else analyze.
Solving problems takes a balance. The most brilliant analysis producing the most wonderful ideas is all useless until someone acts.
Some problems encourage eternal analysis, but that does not mean that eternal analysis is best. Some analysis is best accomplished with action.
Think carefully, of course. Act boldly, also of course.
-- doug smith
It's irksome to get blamed for a problem. That can raise emotions that make solving the problem even more difficult. If we can center ourselves first, breathe, and release the blame, maybe we can see what path to take.
We can solve the problem.
Getting blamed for a problem we didn't create doesn't prevent us from solving it.
Let go of the blame, wherever it came from.
-- doug smith
Action Step:
The next time you catch yourself blaming anyone for anything, just let go of the blame.
As a recovering perfectionist, I've tried to make peace with temporary solutions. I do still want everything to be perfect (and to STAY that way) while also learning that even my best ideas are transitional at best. Things will change. I will change. You will change. Our ideas and solutions will also need to change.
If we can stop thinking that solutions are final our problems won't seem so troubling.
Because whatever we don't solve NOW can still be solved later.
Add a little kaizen to your solution and let it breathe.
What do you think?
-- doug smith
Action Step:
In your next action plan, consider adding a step for continuous improvement.
Cooperative, centered problem solving rewards you even when the problem is not solved.
-- doug smith
The first cause you find to a problem is probably not the last cause or even the main cause. Keep digging.
-- doug smith
Have you ever had a problem that seemed to be propelled by people's personalities? When it's hard to get along our problems can linger on.
Here's what I do: take a breath, take nothing personally, and take charge of taking the next step.
A centered problem solver detaches the problem from the personalities.
-- doug smith
It's frustrating to solve a problem only to have it re-appear. And, even if it doesn't re-appear it seems like another problem quickly pops up.
Problems don't stay solved so we must keep solving.
And so...keep solving.
-- doug smith
Some problems are just one conversation away from being solved.
Talk about it.
-- doug smith
Have you thought about how many stories you add to your life? We are so interested in understanding the meaning of everything that if we can't easily find the meaning we simply make it up. We tell stories to explain what we believe, even if what we believe has zero evidence or proof.
Ordinarily, that's annoying. When dealing with a problem, that's a disaster in motion.
Things we do to expand that story include ascribing motives to people we believe are responsible. They include interpreting words and actions as malicious, when maybe they were simply capricious. They include telling tales of woe and victimhood that do not lead to sensible solutions.
It's another problem within a problem. But we can choose.
Be careful about adding a story to a problem that only makes the problem worse.
You don't want to make the problem worse, do you? You want to solve it. If your story is not leading to a positive outcome, maybe just maybe the story is wrong.
-- doug smith
Is what you want more powerful than what you need in order to solve that problem?
Is what you want negotiable?
-- doug smith
